For several days Iíve been present at one of our brotherhood institutions. Although aware of the progression of change within the churches of Christ, I was somewhat surprised at the apparel of the young ladies. The thought occurred to me that men of different backgrounds would flood the campus each semester only to be bombarded with ladies advertising themselves; whether in ignorance or blatant, only these women know. Regardless of motive, there is a breakdown of parental guidance and discipline of those responsible. As a society we must address this and teach accurately principles becoming of young women before they reach young womanhood.
As I contemplate this problem, Iím convinced that most ladies are unaware how the male mind functions. Stated another way, men and women think very different. Iím also soberly cognizant that some girls have attained a knowledge that attention can be gained by displaying parts of the body that should be confined to the husband within the boundaries of marriage. It is the opinion of this author that often male attention is sought due to the neglect of the father and his relationship to his daughter. If the dad forsakes his responsibility to his daughter in feeding and nurturing her desire for healthy attention, she will seek it elsewhere. And a promise to us fathers: she will find it!
It will be the objective of this article to list some characteristics of the male mind. Although this is primarily directed to young ladies, fathers should take heed and mold their daughter, the little girl that will one day be a wife. The following is a brief summary concerning what ladies should consider when picking and wearing their attire:
Skin. Many are under the false impression that as long as no skin is exposed, the outfit is modest. This will be expounded upon below. Regarding the exposition of the outer layer of the human body, commonly called skin, a few facts need to be expressed. Numerous women in the Lordís church feel free to wear clothing, whether to their secular jobs or to the assembly, with the tops of the breasts exposed. This is known as cleavage. A young lady may see this as just a ďcrack,Ē yet to the male, impure thoughts may proceed. Although men are responsible for their own actions (Matthew 5:28-29), women will be held to account for causing others to stumble (Matthew 18:7). If you love your brother, why would you perform an action that could perpetuate the loss of their soul? This also applies to dresses and skirts.